Wednesday 22 January 2014

Writing your own vows v2.0



I have written about this earlier, but I am always inspired by conversations with my clients.  Different people consider this option, and its difficulty or simplicity quite differently.   The matter is subjective, so I hope this gives you a little help to Keep Calm and ...  anyway -  Have a great week :-)


How to write vows?

Logical explanation:

In your vows, you speak in future-tense.
This is because, in your marriage, you make decisions that affect both of you. 
You are making a promise today, that is the promise you will deliver tomorrow, everyday, 2, 5, 10 + years from now.

Abstract explanation:

The greatest promise you feared to give to yourself, for tomorrow – what is it?
In marriage you can share and give this with someone else.  Someone who will share in your dream…

In both cases, the answer is to grab a pen and paper.

You can research, you can write.  You can feel it is all not-so-easy.  BUT! You will know the words when you see them. Because these will be your words..  Borrow them, conjure them, use your ‘speak’ or jargon, or the jokes your mum use to tell you.  These are words you will own, and these words will help you and your marriage become exactly what you mean for it to be. 

  
Example:
I promise to be your partner, lover, companion and friend;
Your comrade in adventure and your accomplice in mischief.

I vow to laugh with you in joy and support you in sorrow.
When our love grows easily, and when it is an effort.

I promise to enter this marriage
To give everything I am
From this moment
To celebrate our life together always.

I will love, respect and cherish you
through all of our days.